I have this ONE friend to hang out with because she shooed away all my other friends.. idk what to do. I really want to make new friends but im also shy.. so hows the best way to make friends guys? do i just come up to a bunch of guys and go and be like '; hey my names ___ whats up guys?'; and stay in their group until they like me or what?How do i make new friends ?
Being is shy is hard, i am shy too but i promise you if you just go out of your comfert zone you will make friends. Everyone has hard time making friends, so if you approach them they will be more likely to become your friend. If you dont want to approach them speek up and when your around people laugh at what the teacher says or whisper something to the girl next to you. And just so you know, one girl just flat up came up to me once and said Hi im Meghan, and now we are best friends. Just dont cling onto them and hang out with their group, just e friendly with them and after a few days of that, ask to sit by them at lunch then before you know it youll be friends!How do i make new friends ?
I have been in the exact same situation. :) The most common reason a person will draw you into friendship and kick out everyone else is that they feel they won't fit in with others, and since they have you, they 'NEED' to keep you close, and if you have tons of other friends, they're less likely to be as close as they want to be to you! :\ In short: they're jealous %26amp; scared. They are worried you might leave them for other people. But as I said, this is just a most-common-occurrence conclusion!! :D
I suggest doing like I did in this EXACT same situation: let your friend know that you love 'em dearly, but you want to have connections and contacts as you get older and therefore, you need to make some new friends!! And it does NOT mean you'll love her any less!! Also, try to find a certain new friend for her!! Someone with similar tastes and traits who she can spends some time with.
As for guy friends, I have found it is best to befriend guys that you haven't crushed on, so it can't really be awkward if that comes up, guys who are in just one or two of your classes so it'll be okay whether the friendship goes well or...not!! ;D But I just like to partner up with a guy who seems genuinely nice for a lab or project, and get to know them. Then you just always wave or say 'hey' in the hallway to show them you remember them. Toss in some 'good mornings' and some chat about his day or weekend plans during down time in class. From there, it gets pretty easy!!
I really hope this help you!! :) Good luck!!!!!!
Sorry this probably won't help, but I went through the same thing in School..and still am today! Its so complicated to make new friends, I wish people could just see my personality without me having to akwardly introduce myself and stuff haha.
Just take a deep breath and start talking to people. :-)
Trust me.
Hi there,
Let us look at shyness first.
Shyness is a defence mechanism to defend us against bad outcomes but if we don't risk bad outcomes then we'll never get good outcomes either. At the heart of it shyness is the fear of being judged harshly. A shy person is a person who does not want to be subjected to the opinions of others because they believe those opinions will be negative and feel vulnerable because they do not have a strong sense of self esteem.
Overcoming shyness has to start with you. When you divorce yourself from your shyness which will take time and persistence your life will change. When you enter a room meeting people for the first time - no matter the context, job interviews or parties and you feel those jitters and butterflies, remember that most people you meet are too busy worrying about what others think about them to really notice and judge you.
Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
Here are a few for making friends.
Do not aim to make loads of friends. Concentrate on just a few, perhaps those who have similar interests as you. It's far better to have a few quality friends and get to know these really well. As time passes you make really close and best friends.
Yes, you will make mistakes and so too will they but if friendships are valued as indeed they should be, those mistakes will be forgiven.
1. Get out and mingle with people. Join activities in which you are interacting with people. Explore the existence of clubs and societies in your area which cater for your interests. There will be a commonality here and a source of friends.
2. Don't fear rejection. Just as snooker players are out to win, they start the game knowing they may not win. Similarly you can't expect success every time. View every encounter with people as a positive learning experience. Try not be self-conscious. Instead of thinking about your perceived flaws focus your thoughts entirely on the person you're talking to.
3. Learn to listen. In conversation, avoid closed questions with a yes or no answer. Encourage people to talk about themselves. Smile occasionally and develop plenty of eye contact. Your butterflies and jitters will go. If the conversations lulls have new topics of conversation ready at hand. You may discover new topics in the course of the conversation.
4. Don't take things personally. Sometimes people say things they don't mean. If inappropriate comments are made though you should stand your ground and stand up for yourself.
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I would like to conclude by saying what friendship is all about.
Friendships and relationships are underpinned by principles of trust, honesty, loyalty, integrity and respect amongst other criteria in equal measure by each party to that friendship. Of these trust is not a God given right but needs to be earned over a period of time.
Whilst we may make friends with people for one or more reasons, we have to start with the assumption that their values, ethics and code of morality are pretty much in keeping with our own. After all if you are anti-drugs you鈥檇 hardly want a drug addict as a bosom friend. Similarly we have to take for granted that the principles I鈥檝e mentioned are in place. Just as it takes time to build up trust, so too time will enable you to evaluate whether the principles I鈥檝e mentioned are characteristic of the person.
These principles extend equally to friendships enjoyed by or with others. The current friend you hang out with did not respect the friendship you had with others as she shooed them away. I would question the value of continuing the friendship with her.
