I have always had Girls as friends. It's nice and all but i would like to have some guy friends. I usally dont no what to talk about with guys though. Most of them want to talk about girls, but the problem is that i am a closeted gay. I also dont do too many manly stuff. I play soccer but most TV shows and Music is considered girl stuff. Dont get the thought that i have a gay voice and i love shopping and pink, cuz i dont. Also to note, i'm 15.How do you make guy friends?
Just start talking to them, because that is how I was. I wasn't closeted to a lot of people, but at 15 I was a gay teenager that only had girls for friends, talked to the occasional guy acquaintance here and there and played soccer, but loved music videos. I can assure you right now that I'm gay and I don't think there is a ';gay voice,'; i don't like shopping, and I strongly dislike Pink. So those stereotypes wash them out of your head.
I think you need to come out of the closet and be straightforward about it to at least your classmates and that honestly wouldn't deflect your chance of getting some guy friends, because all you would have to do is make sure they understand that you only want to be with them on friend levels. Like I said though just start talking to them and try to hang out with them, there are guys out there with common interests believe it or not. Try to make friends with the soccer team or try to make friends with the girls boyfriends, etc.How do you make guy friends?
If you just try to get in stream of what guys talk about, how they hang out in a group, i used to have this problem when i was young and i used to feel a little uncomfortable amoung guys who used to tease me, being sensitive got just a few guy friends but now i have many, the key way is to socialise...now i have both guy and girl buds in almost the same proportion! once you learn the right way it will be great then... and music isnt girl stuff everyone listens to it!
';Dont get the thought that i have a gay voice and i love shopping and pink, cuz i dont';
Sure..... Just start talking about boy stuff if you don't like shopping and pink then you must do something that's manly or boyish unless you stand in a corner all day.
Kinda the same.
Although im pan.
Also, they just seem to talk about things that don't interest me.
Its all good.
Relax kid, they will come eventually.
Just not now.
Don't even try meeting people through the internet- it's a total waste of time. It's crawling with losers, users, posers, con-artists, trolls, dirty old men and psychopaths. Meeting people face to face is much more effective.
It really pays to have a network of gay, bi and straight friends that know you are gay or lesbian. It works like the snowball effect- the more friends you have, the more new friends you will meet. Concentrate on making friends, not only on getting to know potential boyfriends or sex partners.
Get involved in LGBT culture, which includes sports clubs and events, choirs and glee clubs, hospice care volunteering, counseling and big brothers/big sisters programs, church and other religious groups, academic institutes, summer camps, literacy programs, film clubs and other interest groups, pen pals, bookstores and libraries, picnics and barbecues, businesses, legal and political organizations, and much, much more.
I met a lot of cool guys passing out leaflets against Proposition 8 here in California last fall. I volunteered as an usher for performances during Pride Week and during the gay film festival (that way, I got to meet lots of cool people AND see lots of cool films).
I also belong to a gay teen soccer club and a gay diving club. I also tag along on hikes with a LGBT teen nature conservancy group that my friend is a member of. Last summer, we went to a camp for LGBT teens, and this summer were going on a canoe trip for gay teens in the Appalachians.
I'm the vice president of our school's GSA, and have made a lot of contacts in other schools and in the adult LGBT community. I write on LGBT topics for our school newspaper, and two of my articles have been published in the local city paper.
Does your school have a Gay Straight Alliance or other similar organization. If so, join!
You can find out more about clubs and other groups in your area by contacting the GLSEN or PFLAG chapter in your area:
http://www.glsen.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/st鈥?/a>
http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid鈥?/a>
A lot of churches have groups for LGTB teens, especially the Metropolitan Community Church, the Unitarians, Episcopalians, and the United Church of Christ. Here is a site where you can find a gay-friendly church in your area:
http://www.gaychurch.org/Find_a_Church/f鈥?/a>
Most of these churches are inclusive churches, so you don't even have to be a Christian to go to the groups. Visitors are always welcome, and none of these churches ever put pressure on you to join. I'm an agnostic, and I often go to the Thursday social of the gay teen group at the local Unitarian church. The guys there are really cool, and I've gone out with two of them.
Meet as many LGBT and LGTB-friendly kids as you can. If you're interested in someone, ask them out. Don't wait for them to ask you or you will be waiting a long time.
Meeting LGTB teens is really very easy once you get moving. Take advantage of all the many opportunities available.
Good luck, and happy hunting!
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