How to deal with girlfriend's ';guy friends';?

I've been cheated on by women with their guy friends, even though we were in a longterm relationship. Current girlfriend has many guy friends and even guy friends that she has been sexual with in the past.





Is it ok for her to still be close friends with the guys she's been sexual with. How far is too far for being close with the guy friends? She'll hang out with them at their place to watch movies...I mean, I trust her but I don't feel it's right. Please help.How to deal with girlfriend's ';guy friends';?
Hell no man, that would have to stop with me. When I meet a girl, I phase out all those guys, I'm just not going to deal with worrying about them trying to get in her pants on that one night you're fighting, or she needs some comfort, or whatever BS. Those guys are usually all ******* anyway.





I just won't be with a girl who hangs around men that are not gay or that are work related, and I'm talking like having lunch once in a blue blue moon.





They can spin they been doing that for X amount of time, and they've been friends all this time etc..If she isn't willing to change slowly cutting down that time, and being your girl, then I would cut her pretty quick, i don't want to involved in any future drama.





On the flip side, if I don't really care all that much, I would say **** it, I don't really care, if she cheats or does anything like that..meh, just tell her to tell you know out of respect so she can be with that guy, you don't want to be involved in that kind of BS. She can be with whomever she wants, tell her you don't mind, just let you know..if she wants to be with some other douche, tell her to go ahead and go for it, but you're not a douche so you don't want to stick around for it.





I think there is a reason why her relationships don't last.How to deal with girlfriend's ';guy friends';?
You have to learn to respect her independence. She clearly enjoys the company of other guys, and the last thing you want to do is to make her unhappy by giving her any form of ultimatum.





If she's truly worth your time, then you can trust her to be faithful, otherwise, you clearly need someone who'll be more focused on you.








For example, I have many female friends, and I wouldn't ever want my girlfriend to tell me I can't hang out with them. She'll have to trust me to be faithful, otherwise, it won't work out.
I would talk to her about it. I would mention that this was an issue with a past girlfriend and that you totally trust her but your not very comfortable with it. Its good to judge the guy friend as well...is he trustworth at all? if so then maybe you can trust them to hang out.


Psersonally I have a lot of guy friends and my boyfriend trusts me and them, however if he didn't I would respect that and not hang out with my guy friends alone...


Hope it all works out, and remember that every girl is not the same!
You say you trust her, but by the very nature of your question, you're implying that you don't. Otherwise you wouldn't be asking.





She sounds like the type of woman that likes to live in the moment, with, or without you. I think you should tell her how it makes you feel when she goes off to her guyfreind's place, and see where it goes from there. If she starts quesitoning your trust, tell her that it's not her you're worried about but her guy friends. Ask her about where she stands with them. tell her you'd feel better if she started spending more time with you.





Good Luck!
She's with you now, if she wanted to be with these guy friends again, it would be doubtful that she would have told you she had been sexual with them in the past.





You need to trust her if you want to be with her. If you can't it will ruin your relationship.





Of course it's OK to have guy friends. I have lots of guy friends and I don't think of them in that way.
I have the same concerns about MY boyfriend and his many female friends. I think both sides have those concerns when they are in a relationship. Being a female...i know that most of my guy friends have at one time or still do (even though im in a steady relationship with someone else) want MORE than just a friendship from me. I think they feel that as long as they are still in the picture that there is still HOPE that they might get more out of me. I have pulled away from these friends for the sake of my boyfriend. I DID have one friend whom was a male and I considered my BEST FRIEND! I loved him dearly and he was the one and only friend that i was ever intimate with (before i met my boyfriend). Again for the sake of my boyfriend (who is NOT aware we were ever intimate) i have cut ties with him as well. IT hurts me terribly and i miss him every day...but i want my relationship to work with my boyfriend and i dont want him to have worries about anything.





I dont think its unreasonable for you to want YOUR girlfriend to do the same thing.
Tell her that you're uncomfortable with her hanging out with so many guy friends. If the relationship is meant to be, she might think you're being silly about it, but she'll respect your feelings enough to at least tone it down.





If she gets overly defensive and refuses, leave her.





My thoughts: There's probably a good chance that she is cheating on you. Watch your back, son.
That would make me uncomforatable as well. This happened with my last boyfriend, he had a lot of female friends including ex's he had slept with and he ended up cheating. Not saying that your girl is going to cheat on you, I just understand your nervousness.





I think hanging out and watching movies is okay but if it starts to get shady I would say something. I feel like she may get defensive if you start to be possessive also so be careful...Just make sure she knows how you feel about her
For her to being that is not cool, it honestly show a lack of respect for u and ur relationship. i get that you trust her. but u'll be home tearing out ur hair wondering what she's doing... even when she's doing nothing at all. u either need to talk her and tell her how u feel and if she cares enuff she'll probably try to cut down on the time she spends with them


another option if the befriend her guy frenz and hang out with them too


or you might just have to leave her and find someone else
Me and my boyfriend are dealing with the same problem. You should discuss it with her let her know that its ok if she has guy friends but theirs no reason to hang out at their house that just sounds bad. Just make sure to reassure her that you trust her. Eventually if your relationship is going good she wont want to hang out with other guys.
If the guys are willing to hang out with both of you guy and she doesnt act uncomfortable then I think you have nothing to worry about but if she or the guys avoid all hanging out together you could have problems. I was dating a guy who was divorced but still good friends with his ex wife and it used to worry me until we all hung out together then I felt much better about it
I am that girl with many, many guy friends. I have dated and slept with some of these, only because we had relationships and turned out better as friends than lovers. They were such great guys that I didn't want to lose them entirely so we remain friends, WITHOUT benefits.





I am in a relationship that is three years old and going stro
It is right maybe you should bring up the topic about you two going out together and have her bring some of her guy friends and you bring some of your girl friends and see how the guys she hangs around with act and stuff if they are flirtatious then you can start worrying. Good Luck
Unless you find out somethings happened then don't worry too much. BUT DO LOOK FOR SIGNS here are some.


They lose interest in sexual intercourse. You stop having sex, or have sex less often. Sex does not feel intimate anymore. They might actually be feeling guilty about cheating on their lover when they have sex with you. They act distant. Your intimacy level goes down. They won't touch, kiss or hold you as much. They don't say ';I love you'; as often
It's NOT right to me!!! She should know that! It's like rubbing your face in it! Sit down and tell her it's affecting you - if she cares enough she'll understand - tell her to put herself in your shoes - would she like it? I bet she wouldn't! Put you foot down. Sorry - hope im not being too harsh. I just feel strongly when people act like things like this are nothing!
it's a great thing to have friends, if you're worried about them, then invite her over to ur place more.... or if you want to get to know these ';guy friends';, have a party or something and invite them to it
I would feel the same way if I was in your shoes. Sad thing is you can't ask her not to see that guy friend anymore. It is her choice...so tell her how you feel.





Hopefully she will respect your feelings.
There should be some sort of limit to the amount of time she spends with her guy friends and what kind of things they do. Just be honest about it and talk to her. Tell her how it makes you feel.
if i was in ur place i wouldnt let my boyfriend talk to any gurl cuz i get jelouse and if u dont feel comfortable with it, tell her how u feel but if she gets mad for some reason when u tell her..its probably its becuz she perfers her friends than u
have a talk with her. tell her you feel uncomfortable that she still chillin with dudes she slept with thats not cool. did you meet any of her guy friends she chill with. Meet them see what kind of guy they are.
Nothing is wrong with being friends, but hanging out at their place one on one, especially if not a lot of time has passed since they stopped sleeping together... it is just weird. You're cute... you can come hang out with me. :)
Maybe you should try talking to her about it. Tell her you trust her, dont blame or accuse her... Just let her know how you feel.
It depends on if you trust her enough just ask yourself this question ';do i trust her?'; if you do then let her and if not just tell her how you feel she might understand!





just remember don't spy on her!
She's gone too far when she's doing anything physical with them like kissing or sleeping with them. But it just sounds like she's doing what most girls do with their girlfriends which is fine.
Yes, don't let your insecurities control her friendships.
Tell her you don't like it. Turn the tables on her - hang out with one of your woman friends.
Wow, thats so funny. This is what me and my partner are going through therapy for, only reversed. He has SO MANY GIRL Friends and it drives me insane!! I am extremely uncomfortable with it, especially the firends that he has been sexual with in the past too. I trust him, but how much is too much right?? Well, our counselor said that there is no clear answer on this. It is something we need to discuss and come up with an answer. So this is my advice:





If you guys have been dating for a long while and you are serious about each other, then she is going to have to choose between them or you. If it makes you uncomfortable then she should be able to put a stop to it. you should talk to her, tell her how it feels. Try not to make an ultimatum, that will cause her to feel trapped. But let her know it bothers you and you dont think its really necessary for her to be friends with guys from her past if she is happy with you. I'm sorry, but thats why they call them EX's, because thats what they are and they need to stay that way. In my opinion, i dont think its right at all. If you are in a relationship with someone, you need to put behind the old relationships. Sometimes we have to change around even just our friendships to have a happy healthy relationship with the one we are with now.





Our counselor said there really is nothing good to come out of a friendship with an ex, especially if it makes your current partner uncomfortable.





I can also understand your apprehension because you have been cheated on...so have I by my ex and so the fact that my current bf is all buddy buddy with all these women makes me feel on alert all the time. But we talked about it and he ended up removing the majority of them from his life. (Deleting phone numbers, deleting e-mail addresses and no longer contacting them.) it made me feel really good to know that he was willing to do that for me and that I was not asking him to because I wanted to be controlling, i was only asking because it made me uncomfortable.





When you are with someone you are a team and you need to be on the same level ALWAYS. Talk with her about it, seek a counselor if necessary. If you love each other enough it is definitley fixable. GOOD LUCK. I hope it works out for you! i know how you feel only all too well...hope i helped.