I wanna be completely honest with my boyfriend, but I'm afraid he won't think I'm a trustworthy girlfriend. A lot of my guy friends talk dirty to me like about what they wanna do with me and stuff and it never botherd me until now, and my boyfriend probably wouldn't like it, and he certainly wouldn't want to hear it from another person. How should I tell him about my guy friends saying this stuff to me without him thinking I'm not faithful? Should I tell my boyfriend about how my guy friends talk dirty to me?
I don't think the issue is so much what your boyfriend would think of the guy friends talking to you this way, but the fact that the guy friends DO talk dirty to you. If this is bothering you and you think it may have a negative impact on your relationship with your b/f, then you need to nip the dirty talk in the bud. Perhaps in the past it was okay, and perhaps even mutual, but you should make it completely clear to the male friends in question that that type of discourse is no longer welcome and that it makes you feel deeply uncomfortable. A real friend will be considerate of that and will cease immediately.
If said friends do not stop, then they aren't true friends and you ought to sever your ties to them, at least in situations in which that same behavior might occur again.
If you do decide to tell your boyfriend, then do so in a way that expresses how the dirty talk is no longer welcome, because it is not respectful of your relationship with him. Should I tell my boyfriend about how my guy friends talk dirty to me?
If you have any respect for yourself or your boyfriend, your other ';little friends'; should cut it out with the dirty talk. No one wants someone talking dirty to their significant other. Would you be totally comfortable with tons of girls talking to him the way your little buddies talk to you. I seriously doubt it. Because even you have to admit that these guys are hoping to get in your pants. They wouldn't talk to you the way they do if that weren't the case.
Real friends don't treat each other with such total disrespect. These little guy friends of yours obviously see you as a dirty little girl and are only using you to whet their fantasies. I feel bad for you that you can't see that. I hesitate to say this, but it really makes you look like a low class ho.
One question... Do you like it when your male pals talk dirty to you?
If you not like it I think you should tell them to stop. - or if their language makes you to feel bad nowadays - If they not respect your request you should tell your boyfriend at once.
If you like it when your male pals talks dirty to you I cannot see that you need do to more than to ask yourself why you like it?
How about instead of telling your boyfriend what they say... tell THEM to knock it off. And if they don't respect you enough to stop, why would you be friends with them anyway. Don't tell your boyfriend. That's only going to cause a lot of problems.
Tell your friends to quit that stuff.
The wrong male,
you need to ask your male friends to stop
doing It because your In a serious relationship.
They are your friends, so put them in a
friends place.
Don't have your boyfriend upset about
things you can take care of.
Don't tell him, that will only cause problems. This isn't something that you get in trouble for hiding. You do however have to ask your friends (nicely) to not do that anymore. They should have more respect than that, not just for your guy but for you too.
I would discourage the guys from ';talking dirty'; to you first. If they continue, after you have told them that it is no longer appropriate for them to be doing so, then you should tell your boyfriend.
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don't tell him....if he finds out from someone else, just say you don't really notice it because your aren't attracted to them and that you only hear it if it's coming from him, but why bring it up??? if you don't have to...you know it will cause a huge problem!
don't tell him. Tell your guy friends to stop, and that now that you have a boyfriend you don't feel comfortable with it. They will understand and respect your wishes if they really are friends.
Tell him only if you want to loose him. And keep doing this if you want to loose him.
Tell your guy friends that it makes you uncomfortable and that you dont think your bf will like it. If they dont understand then their not good friends of yours.
first of all if you dont like the dirty comments you should tell your boyfriend. if you do like the comments then dont tell him and try to spice up your relationship
mrlucky is right. instead of telling your boyfriend, tell the FRIENDS to stop it. if they continue it might very well wound your relationship
I would just let it go and move on, but if it keeps happening just don't listen to it.
well are they just jokin around or are they serious? if they are serious i wouldnt hang out wit them
these guys aren't friends,there obnoxious dirt bags. clean house and rid yourself of the filth.
Not if you want him to kick their asses.....at least I would....
tell him... and see what happens... though, why do you need to be THAT honest???
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