My boyfriend wants me to lose my guy friends?

I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 40. We have been together for 6 years. I have two children from a pervious relationship, and he has 1 child from a pervious relationship.


We always have struggled with possessive issues, jealousy, and control. Both me and him.


However, we have many times when we get along great. He is a great father figure, very responsible, cares about others, etc...I love him to pieces:





What happened:


I've been going to school for the past eight months. During that time, I made friends with three particular guys. I swear to God it is only friendship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I only hang out with these guys as a group, never one on one. They know that I'm in a serious relationship and have never tested that, nor have I ever considered these guys to be anything more than friends. These guys treat me like one of the guys, it's like I not even considered a chick sometimes....it's hard to explain.


The hommies and me have created and recorded a few songs together. I feel like gwen stefani or fergie or something. I really enjoy making music with these guys, I feel like we are a team.





The problem:


I have been lying to my boyfriend about hanging out with these guys. Not to justify my behaviour, but I lyied because I knew there was no way in hell my boyfriend would be cool about me having guy riends. All i want to do is make music with these guys and have somewhat of a friendship. I don't want to date either of them!!!!! So I went behind his back when I wanted to hangout or record music.





The Problem:


My boyfriend found out and was seriously P.Oed!!!!


He has been hackling me for over a week now. He is convienced something is going on with me and these guys. I understand how inserure he feels right now because i lied to him. However, I couldn't resist the opportunity to do something so unique and exciting, even at the expense of his trust and feelings....which was very wrong, and I'm sorry for that, but I don't feel sorry for what i did or the music i made....is that bad?????





The situation:


My boyfriend claims that he ';hates'; these guys, doesn't want me to hang out with them, or have any contact with them...he has even took it as far as requesting that i delete the songs we made.


He hasn't really given these guys a chance and has no desire too. He says it's just plain wrong for a girl in a relationship to be buddies with guys....(is it wrong?)and now he's giving me the ';choice'; question.


Either he leaves or i delete my guy friends....


What should I do?


What would you do?My boyfriend wants me to lose my guy friends?
You lied, cheated and there is always a underlying issue that one creates to do that. I am with your boyfriend here, lose the guysMy boyfriend wants me to lose my guy friends?
well hes kinda in the older generation





older ppl think that once you are serious that that person is the only one you should talk to





it depends on what you want
I see you really need some advice, and people haven't really given you. Your boyfriend is overreacting, specially when i know the truth, tell him you've been wrong lying to him and try to explain once again briefly what it's all about. If he still disapproves tell him he can tag along, and invite him to one of you music recording thing with the guys, so he sees for himself what's the deal. If he's still against that, maybe you should consider breaking up with a guy who won't let you live and do what you like, it starts with that and it will spread on every aspect of you life. He'll have control of everything. Doesn't seem healthy to me. Make your move.
Obviously, your boyfriend is trying to exert control over you. Obviously, the trust necessary to solidify a relationship is absent, on both your parts.





He has given you an option.





It is time to end this relationship. Let him leave.